“I want to feel proud of who I am and what I bring to my relationship.”

My partner and I aren’t married and we don’t intend to be but we love each other and we want to spend the rest of our lives together. I do have this secret desire to have a small wedding in my front yard when the house is done. I always said that if I got married it was going to be at the Hutt. I’ve just never wanted the hassle or the attention that a wedding brings but maybe that would change if I felt better about myself.

It’s been a rough journey to get where we’re at in our relationship but we keep improving every day and I’m so impressed with the way we’ve evolved as a couple. How many people start off bad and get better? I’m so grateful that we communicate so well and that we’re both committed to being better for each other every day.

I’m interested to see if showing myself love on a consistent basis will continue to improve my relationship. Remember, showing myself love means getting healthy physically and mentally.

I heard the best way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself. Apparently, we date who we are because we attract what we put out into the world. It’s an interesting discussion point I can’t deny as much as I want to. It’s much easier to place blame on the other person.

When I think about my dream relationship I think about peace, love, laughter and tranquility.

My current relationship is a rollercoaster. We’re up, down and in the middle all the time. I guess that’s every relationship but I want to see if we can stay up for longer periods of time. I notice we’re crankier with each other when we stop working on ourselves. When we do better for ourselves, we’re better for each other.

I want us to laugh more, I want us to do different activities more, I want us to be active together, I want us to travel more, I want us to hang out with friends more, I want to go out for dinner more, I want us to be more physical and I want us to be more loving and kind to each other. I want us to get to a place where where we want to give each other a drink or a bite and be happy to do so.