Idols

I watched a movie yesterday that inspired me (Rebel Moon). The movie was great but it was the characters that kept standing out to me.

They were ripped from head to toe and I couldn’t stop admiring them. I was captured by their physical appearance and the hard work and dedication it took for them to get there.

But it wasn’t just their physical appearance, it was their other skills that were so impressive as well. They could fight, which takes a lot of hard work and dedication but they also had amazing character and were focused on doing the right thing even when their life was on the line.

I’m noticing more and more that I want to be a badass and I’m seeking out people I want to emulate because it inspires me to do better and its helping me realize whats possible.

I think it’s important to surround yourself with people who make you better physically and mentally. It’s not that I want to get rid of the friends I have but I notice myself pulling away from people who have nothing to offer when it comes to enforcing my goals.

That sounds harsh but I think it makes sense. I also think this means that I have to continue being self aware but also friend aware. What is it that I admire about my friends? They’re in my life for a reason. Did I attract my friend group based on who I am? None of my friends are fit. I’m definitely the most unfit but no one around me is doing anything that really inspires me to take action.

On second thought, if they’re smaller than me they’re better than me so I need to find out what the hell they’re doing. Who do I think I am assuming my friends have nothing to offer me? I clearly need to learn from them. They wear bikinis in the summer and I wear shorts and a t-shirt while I secretly hate on them instead of admiring them.

I know what jealousy is but do I really understand the root of it? When you’re jealous it’s because you want what someone else has, which is obvious, but why do I let jealousy make me so mad? It’s not that I’m mad at them; I’m mad at myself for not doing what it takes to have the same as them. I’m not taking action and they are.

I unconsciously convince myself that “blessed” people are special or they have certain advantages over me and they don’t. I have the exact same capability within myself to have a bikini body but I choose to continue doing the things keeping me in a t-shirt and shorts. I can wear a bikini if I believe I can. I’m too strong and successful to be stuck in this place. I feel ashamed for hating on my friends. I should be complimenting them on their bodies and letting them know how great they look.

I love the friends I have but I’ve definitely cut a few out. Have you ever broken up with a friend before? I didn’t realize I was doing it at the time but I know now when its time to break up with someone.

It’s such a waste to use your valuable time on people who don’t make you feel good. If I’m not excited to spend time with you then I’m not going to feel bad about turning down an invitation to do something.

I’ve spent a lot of time not wanting to hurt other people’s feelings and I’m done with it. With that said, I also want to be very aware of their character in different areas because we need all kinds of people and personalities in our lives.

I don’t want to shut someone out just because they may annoy me in a certain way. I know I’m not perfect and I’m so grateful that the friends I have love me anyway. It’s a person’s character thats important to me and the sense of trust I have when I’m around them along with their ability to make me feel good.

We all have different friends for different reasons and we’re different people with different friends. I think it’s important to have a variety of people in our life. Do you know what your your friends value in you? I’m not sure myself so I might ask them, I wonder how awkward I can make them and I wonder how easy it would be for them to come up with an answer?

Wouldn’t it be cool if I started a self development club in my own community geared toward adolescents with the potential to grow into different age groups and run by the friends I admire because they have something special to offer?

I just realized how much I love so many of my friends because they truly are amazing. It’s not necessarily about shutting friends out because they’re not inspiring me or the world but about considering why my friends are there in the first place.

I want to help my friends see their gifts and I want to remind myself to model those gifts. I have to admit, at this point in my life, I’ve already shut out the people who have nothing to offer because their character isn’t aligned with my values. The ones I have now are important. I know this because they’re still there and have been for my whole life and I want to find more ways to celebrate and emulate them.

These thoughts I’m having about friends are coming from multiple places. I was inspired by Mel Robbins recently and she recommended that one thing we should stop doing to become a better version of ourself is to stop talking about people when they’re not around.

This is something I really want to practice. I want to train myself to only talk about people when they’re in the room and I want that talk to be about something I see in them that I admire. I want to start with my family because they seem to be the ones I avoid the most when it comes to compliments and I think its because they’re the ones I want compliments from the most.

Isn’t that interesting? I want to start giving the things that I want the most; not because I want it back but because if I want it then they probably want it too.

I think that’s why I enjoyed being around some old friends recently. They came home for Xmas and I couldn’t wait to spend time with them and its because they celebrate who I am and I celebrate who they are. I made a conscious point to let them know how much I admire them for their physical health and how consistent they’ve been with that their whole lives. They let me know how much they admire me for being, actually, I don’t know if they articulated that to me well. Was it because I wasn’t listening or was it because they didn’t do it? Maybe I should ask them. I think it’s important that we tell the people in our lives why we like them.

I spend too much time being jealous of my friends but I’m only jealous because I want to be or have the thing they have. Why not switch that jealousy to inspirational motivation? It just makes sense.

As we move through life we become different people and that may be the key to help me stay consistent in my fitness goals. I’ve worn a bikini before but it came from heartbreak and my mindset was about getting fit to make him come back or to possibly attract someone new.

I did get someone new but as soon as I got comfortable in that relationship I reverted back to my old identity again. I made myself comfortable in my suffering. My transformation wasn’t for me, it was for someone else and thats why I failed. I’ve never done the work for me.

I want to be proud of myself without wondering if anyone else is. My point is, as we become different versions of ourselves we have to let the old ones go fully and completely. Thats how I’m going to get fit and stay fit. I don’t want to let go of this new person I’m becoming. I’m sad thinking about erasing the girl I used to be but I know the new one is better for me.

“I’m not erasing myself, I’m erasing the inaccurate version of myself I’ve been holding onto for 42 years.”

-Dawn Rochelle ♡

When you admire you inspire; not only yourself but everyone else. David Goggins was speaking about people like me in a recent podcast. He mentioned the friends he had as his former self and how they try to drag him back to the life he used to live because they’re jealous. I don’t want to be that friend and I’m feeling ashamed to admit that I am. Not anymore though. I’m waking up and becoming more self aware. It’s important and exciting.

“When you admire you inspire; not only yourself but everyone else.”

-Dawn Rochelle ♡

-Dawn Rochelle ♡